Response to Classmates: The Sleepover Question Article

This a discussion post...i simply need to respond to what my classmates have written. 
you will have to respond constructively to the lettters of your classmates. (Post your thoughtful comments and questions by Sunday at midnight - you receive points for participation.)
I expect a hearty debate, HOWEVER, you must always be respectful of the opinons and feelings of others. 
here is what one of my classmates have written:Dear Editor,
I have read your article The Sleepover Question in the New York Times and I am strongly bothered of several things: age, gender and familial responsibility. I understand that the article was to show two parenting styles and how it affected these girls about their views on sex and relationships. I am however disappointed about how it seemed to favor Natalie and her parents' take on the matter.
Like Kimberly, let me tell you, I was raised by a set of conservative parents. At some point in my life I will be a parent myself. Heaven forbid I have a girl. But at this point the gender is not really important because I will raise my children the same way my parents had raised me. Responsible, with stronger priorities and values, strong morals. Call it old-fashioned. At 25 years of age, I have secured a future for myself and my future family. I finished with a degree in Electrical and Electronics Engineering. I have travelled many parts of the world and had gained enough experiences to offer my child. I, too had raging hormones as a young man. Girls and sex did cross my mind at that time, don't get me wrong. But priorities are priorities. It was so important to me as a young man to finish my education and to respect the girls I dated and their parents as well. 
Kimberly, the 16-year-old from the United States had parents who believed that their daughter was too young to have intimate relations. Nowhere did the article state that the parents were against the relationship. It did however showed that early sex was something they don't condone. Were they bad parents? I think not! They were parents who do not want their daughter to have early intimate relations at age 16! When priorities to get in good college should be primary. At this age, when hormones are high, does it guarantee that the boy have protection with him? And if my daughter was equipped with protection and even a space to do the act in my home, would that be a signal to the boy that he can wantonly do it anytime? Will my daughter be used up at an early age? And at age 16, how can she handle the emotional responsibility associated with heart break? Would I encourage my daughter to explore as many men as she could just to know how to be comfortable with her body and who he gets to spend saturday mornings with presenting the idea that marriage was just that? Marriage is not just sex! Will she be equipped to hande the pressure of studines, families and relationship? Sure she was ashamed to discuss it with her parents, but was it the act she was ashamed about? Or the secrecy of it? Or the disobedience? 
Nathalie from Netherlands had laid back parents and maybe she can come to her parents for ope advice about sex. I prefer my daughter to ask my advice about her future, her dreams, hopes and aspirations.
As for me, I am parent first, then friend.
Respectfully,
Nakul Chetiwal
Another one of my classmates wrote:
Dear Editor,
After reading this article written by Ms. Amy Schalet, The Sleepover Question, I am really confused on her findings. The second paragraph stated "would Americans increase peace in family life and strengthen family bonds if they adopted more accepting attitudes about sex and what's allowable under the family's roof? I've interviewed 130 people, ALL WHITE, MIDDLE CLASS AND NOT PARTICULARLY RELIGIOUS. Well just from that statement alone the research is flawed to me. How can you base your finding and say this is what the world thinks if your didn't interview them. If you had interviewed 30 white people, 30 black people, 30 Indian people and 30 Mexican people then you would have some real research. This whole entire article is based off one race and middle class. Middle class only make up 43% of Americas population, thus Amy did a terrible job with her research and interviewing. But getting back to the content of her article, because I totally disagree with it nothing in the article I can relate to. But in my opinion of the article I feel having sex in your parents is totally disrespectful. She stated she interviewed two 16 year olds, one American and one Dutch. The American girl had a hard time telling her parents that she was having sex at 16 with her boyfriend but the Dutch girl didn't and she felt relief after she told them. My question is why are 16 year olds that crazy over sex? Our society and culture are falling in between the cracks of what we think is right and what we know is right. If you are 16 and you want have sex like a adult then I think you should take on all the other responsibilities as adult. Get a job, pay some bills, get married, do things right in the eyes of God. Not just pleasing your flesh because you are just so horny you want to have sex in your parents house. An the stupid parents that agree with it are just as crazy, teach your children sex education but also teach them sex is for marriage. What about getting married at 16 then having sex. This article was a waste of pages in this book in my opinion.
Sincerely
Barbara Penson