Trust in friendship is as important as oxygen is to life. Friendship is a vital aspect of every human being’s life, since no man is an island. Merriam Webster describes trust as assured reliability on someone or something’s character, truthfulness, or their strength. Friendship on the other hand can be termed as a bond of mutual fondness that exists between two or more people. Trust between friends, lies within the fact that they have confidence in each other and they think of each other as being reliable. Further, they feel safe in emotional and physical nature with each other.
A lot of scenarios have occurred whereby a relationship has been forced or morally required to end. This occurs due to broken trust which in turn leads to soiled loyalty in the friendship cycle. In this case, the ending of the friendship or relationship is justified. A friendship being the act of being reliable to each other and being involved intimately in association with each other. It’s therefore sane enough for friends not to betray each other regardless of the situation there in. All this makes a lot of sense when it is in the best of interest of the friend in the friendship cycle.
The importance of trust in every platonic relationship should be upheld and anything that tries to derail it should be dealt with. Dealing with this essential issue of trust either in an active or passive form, its power should be handled with care and mutually understood. Many a time, trust has been described as the unwritten law among friends. Trust is described as “faith”, (Webster’s pg. 1436). Deciding to use the word “faith” in describing trust in a friendship is not something that can be ignored. “Faith” describes a belief in each other making it very hard for someone to point out that the breach of trust in the relationship is always in the best of interest of the friend.
A friend should always be described as loyal at all times. A loyal friend is that one that is faithful to the other friend’s ideals and is always under an obligation to defend, support and be truthful to them (Webster’s, pg. 802). Loyalty definitions and connotations demand commitment of the highest order. This exists in a number of degrees. Loyalty can be taken as the backbone of a friendship in that one will be willing to take a risk on their life and limbs. On the other hand, loyalty might be totally ignored. An example to elaborate this simple analogy is when one owns a pet (a dog) that he or she feeds daily, takes it for a walk in the morning and cleans it and its house. In general he or she takes really good care of the pet but in case of a fire outbreak it’s not guaranteed that he or she will run back in the house or wherever it is to save the pet. There are lot of stages that exists between full loyalty and a lesser amount of loyalty. Good and valuable friendship is built on trust and loyalty.
Utility friendship is one that entails gaining benefits from each other. This involves being a friend to someone just because they possess some kind of knowledge and skills that you don’t have and at the end of the day you will need. In this kind of relationship there is a very minimal amount of loyalty. An example to explain this kind of relationship is when Festus knows Laborn only as his computer technician, and trusts that Laborn will repair his computer. Festus is a loyal customer to Laborn in that he will return again and again when need arises. If it happens that Laborn is going out of business and requires $10000 to salvage his business, it’s not a guarantee that Festus will bail him out just like that because of the firm belief, be it confidence, reliability and integrity of Laborn in doing his job (Webster’s, pg. 1436). In most of the occasions, these particular individuals only become our friend just because they offer us one of the best services. This kind of a relationship also has its own conditions that have to be arrived at in order for it to be pleasurable. Like for example, one ends up loving the person more than he or she loves the work that the person does for them. This turns out to be a friendship full of pleasure.
Integrity of both parties in the friendship, their loyalty to each other, mutual truthfulness, protection of each other and trust amongst them forms the basis of good friendship. Each and every of these factors makes sure that friendship is stable and bearable. Friends are of great help, friends are strategically placed to offer a hand in the hour of need. A good friend is always there, understands you and you understand them in return. This is all about a mutual friend.
A relationship that is broken due to the breach of trust will never be the same again. This is due to the fact that loyalty was once trashed and meant nothing to the other party. This betrayal to the other party and their feelings can be a massive reason in itself to end a friendship relationship. In the sense that if one was willing to compromise how you feel and the trust you have both established. It’s not worth the pain they put you through to rebuild the relationship again so that they put you through the same situation again. Trusting someone is not a walk in the park especially if that someone did hurt you before.
Trust is something that is quite rare to come across these days but when one finds and he or she is capable of reciprocating it, it’s only fair not to destroy it due to the selfish nature of humans. Life finds a meaning and it becomes much better and way too fulfilling for everyone. One of the many reasons for one to have a friend is in order for one to have the feeling of safety in that one is free to share his or her thoughts and feelings.
- Aristotle “Nicomachean Ethic Books V11 and 1X”
- Other Selves Philosophers on Friendship. Ed. Pakaluk, Micheal. Indianapolis: Hackett Publishing Co. Inc 1991. Pg. 30
- https://www.meriam-webster.com_Merriam English dictionary.